Friends on this roller coaster

Where shall I begin? I'm going to try this blog thing Again. But I feel like I probAbly won't have much to say. I don't really know where to start, I have looked over a few blogs tonight and I get the feeling that it's pretty much whatever you want to say, hence it's "your blog". (I kno I'm such a rocket scientist for that observation.) So I'll just write whatever comes to mind. Now having said that I'll start with a little update on what's been going on with me over the past year. I am still with my "new job". I finally upgraded my living situation not because of the job but because a cousin decided that he would help me out while he went overseas, so I am very grateful to him for that. I love love, love my cousin. I can never repay him for what he has done for me and my family. Now to get on with the topic at hand for my blog...friends on this roller coaster. If there is anything that I cherish aside from my family, it my true friendships. I have ladies in my life that I have known for 20+ years and some for just a couple. But what I have noticed is it doesn't matter how long you have known someone, it's just about the connection, the realness, how each values the friendship, the honesty, the loyalty and that family-like quality that you get from that person. I have been going through some changes lately and I have had to step outside myself a few times to learn a couple lessons, I was too blind to see. I almost lost a 20+ yr old friendship over what we have come to the conclusion of calling "a non issue turned issue over miscommunication". And that is truly what sums it up. We both were too stubborn to talk to each other. We would see each other and be cordial, but in the back of both of our heads we were thinking "why is this Heffa talking to me?" I'm thinking we should be cool because I apologized for a blow-up, and she was thinking we have a situation that was never resolved, and that is what we should discuss. The point to my rambling is very simple, no matter what life throws at you, communication is always the key to any breakthrough. Don't ever let pride stand in the way of getting to the bottom of any situation. Don't ever assume that things are a certain way unless you have done your research. My situation could have easily been avoided had I approached her a year ago. It could have been solved had I not assumed that the situation was at the point where it was because she had an issue with me. All the frustrations of taking each others comments the wrong way could have been avoided had we just sat down and said "wtf?" Decades of being friends was being tarnished and drug into the ground all because we felt the other person was upset over some unknown issue. It's all real elementary. Grown women unable to properly communicate resulting in child-like behavior. As a friend told me "If you value the friendship that you have with her, call her and work it out, before it is too late." I almost didn't take that advice because I felt like I didn't have the issue so why should I contact her to find out why she has an issue with me. Where do they do that at? No no no! You got a problem you need to be a women and come to me and state so. But I went ahead and made the call, well text. We had a sit-down and situation is now clear. Now whether it's too late to repair the damage remains to be seen. Well stay tuned for my crazy roller coaster rides with friends. Until next time...